Pros and Cons of Nuclear Family in the Modern World
A Cliched but Important Discussion about the nuclear family.
Nuclear families are not new, and neither is the discussion about them. If we believe the historians, nuclear families go way back to the 1300s. Since then, families have evolved, societies have changed, and some have stuck to extended families’ traditional family system.
The nuclear family concept has stayed strong through many changes and is the typical type found in urban areas.
Has a nuclear family survived the test of time because it is the best way to live?
While some people will nod in affirmation, many do not agree. So, let’s see what makes nuclear families a popular concept instead of the joint family system.
Let’s discuss their advantages and disadvantages and understand why the world is so divided about the nuclear family concept.
Pros and Advantages Of Nuclear Family
A Nuclear family is small and hence have smaller bills, they can live in a smaller house and can make do with one car. It is evident that their expenses are limited as compared to a joint family structure. Hence, they experience better financial stability. Parents in nuclear families tend to offer a decent life to their children with ample opportunities to learn new things, travel and choose the college of their choice.
Emotional stability is hard to find when a household has multiple authorities. A nuclear family has only authorities who can easily reach mutual conclusions and provide the children with a stable and productive environment. Kids who grow up in a nuclear family tend to have transparent thought processes and are not easily confused. They also understand the demarcation between right and wrong and understand the importance of matured communication inside the four walls. It’s safe to say that the kids who grow up in nuclear families grow up to be well-rounded adults.
Responsible and Independent Individuals
In nuclear families, children have to learn to do things on their own. More so, if both the parents are working. This makes children and even parents independent individuals who can also multi-task. Children from a nuclear family learn to fix their breakfast, get ready for school and even take public transport before children in joint families who have multiple adults to help them. The same applies to parents. Nuclear family parents learn to juggle work and home efficiently and become expert multi-taskers with time.
Peace and Harmony
It is easier to achieve peace and harmony in a nuclear family as compared to a joint family. In a nuclear family, you have to agree with fewer people, and it is easy to conclude with two or three minds. In a joint family, even the smallest of situations tend to get complicated because of the number of people involved in the decision-making process. It is also true that discussions and arguments are lighter in a nuclear as compared to a joint family where family members of different generations (opinions) stay together.
Cons of a Nuclear Family
Exclusion of Extended Family
The concept of the nuclear family puts all the focus on the immediate relatives like parents and siblings. In this arrangement, extended family members such as grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins are left out. While this may not be a problem in good times, you need your extended family in bad times. Children from nuclear families often fail to understand the family structure, and hence, they grow up feeling lonely and isolated during times of distress.
All the demands of raising children can get overwhelming for the parents, whether it be the joint family structure or a nuclear family. Parents in many nuclear families often burn out because of their responsibilities. Mothers are more likely to experience burnout because they are often the primary caregivers and have to run around in circles to take care of everyone’s needs.
A Nuclear family system that supports their extended family or friends tends to manage parenting better. They have people to help with babysitting, driving children to sports events and taking up other crucial responsibilities.
Limited Support System
Have you heard this statement? Everyone who has kids will agree that this statement is absolutely true. It takes a village to raise a child. You need people in your circle to help you with parenting on a daily basis. This village becomes even more important in emergencies such as at a time of illness or accident. But unfortunately, nuclear families have a limited or non-existent support system. While you might not miss the crowd during a holiday, you will definitely miss a shoulder in tough times.
Children Become Socially Inadept
When children grow up with just parents, they tend to become closed and introverts. They do not prefer to socialize much and often want to be alone. This is to say that children in nuclear families may grow up to dislike crowded setups, seek solitude, and fail to participate and do well in social gatherings. Nuclear family children may also grow with a ‘do it yourself attitude, which can be both a blessing and a curse. They won’t know how to perform tasks in collaboration with others and will, of course, not grow up with a habit of sharing. Team play might be challenging for them.
Like all things in our life, there are both pros and cons of a nuclear family. It is entirely up to you to choose a side and decide which benefits you want to reap. Nuclear families are modern families, and they have succeeded for several decades now. Are they the best way to live? Yes, at least they are the best for urban setups where spaces are limited and commodities are expensive.
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