Toxic Parenting is a toxic caregiver that contributes to toxic experiences. Toxic parents usually lack the ability to be nurturing, supportive, emotionally stable, and consistent with their children. Toxic parents will often use abusive methods such as shaming, humiliation or guilt trips in order to make you do what they want for themselves instead of caring about your wellbeing.
Toxic Parenting is also known as:
- Emotional abuse
- Psychological Maltreatment/Neglect (PSM)
Toxic Parenting occurs when a caregiver does not meet the developmental needs of their child. This can lead to toxic experiences.
Some examples of toxic parental behaviours include:
shaming, humiliation, guilt trips and abusive methods such as yelling or violence (physical or emotional).
Toxic parents often lack nurturing and support; they may even be emotionally unstable and inconsistent with their children.
Toxic parents will often use any means necessary in order to make you do what they want for themselves instead of caring about your wellbeing. They might say things like “You’re ruining my life,” “I wish I never had you”, or something similar if you don’t give them attention when they need
what makes a parent toxic
Parenting can be complex, and it is difficult to know if you are toxic until the damage has been done, but some signs indicate this type of behaviour:
- Abrupt changes in moods (angry one minute and happy the next)
- Unpredictable Parenting (providing too much or too little attention/affection)
- Threatening children with harsh punishment when they do not meet expectations; acting angry rather than disappointed when challenged by their child’s needs. This includes withholding food as an example of emotional abuse.
While toxic parents don’t realize what they’re doing, even first-time parents should have guidance from relatives who were good role models during their childhood. This toxic parenting guide is only meant to describe what toxic parents are like and how they can be avoided; it isn’t intended as a means of diagnosing toxic behaviour in others or labelling someone you know.
As children, toxic experiences leave us with emotional scars. It’s very likely that your family could not provide the support and nurturing that young people need growing up. This might have led to mental health issues such as depression or anxiety disorders later on in life if these toxic behaviours were not resolved during childhood. In order to avoid this from happening, parents need to pay attention when their child seems sad because sometimes those who bully do so because they feel lonely inside themselves.
How to avoid toxic Parenting
If you are reading this as a parent, then maybe you are becoming aware that your parenting style is toxic and that it is not good. It is great that you have decided to take action and try and change for the better.
The toxic parent will relish in their power and control over a child, and they may try to use emotional manipulation tactics such as guilt-tripping or playing the victim role etc.. This is all done to get what toxic parents want for themselves, not thinking about how it might affect you and your children and then having no one else but yourself to blame when things don’t go according to plan.
First off, let’s take a look at some key signs which indicate toxic Parenting:
- The screaming/yelling match, where emotions are out of control (this can be verbal & physical)
- Passive-aggressive behaviour (where someone tries very hard, NOT TO BE NICE).
- Blaming the other party for their own unhappiness.
- Selfishness, where toxic parents are only thinking about themselves and how they can get what they want to benefit them.
- Manipulation/coercion (using guilt or fear to control someone).
To stop toxic Parenting, you must first identify it. If your parents are making you feel like they wish that they didn’t have kids at all or worse, then the chances are good that toxic behaviours are taking place under the surface. Once you’ve identified toxic behaviour in your parent(s), confront them about their words and actions while still being kind and considerate of their feelings.
Toxic people do not respond well to anger, so keep a cool head when talking with them! You can also try reading “Codependent no more” by Melody Beattie for more tips on how to stop toxic behaviours from ruining your life!
The term ‘toxic’ has become increasingly popular among teenagers who use social media sites like Tumblr and Facebook.
Common signs of a toxic parent include:
- Constantly putting you down
- Being overly critical of everything you do
- Rejecting any ideas or suggestions from you but accepting them from other people without question – expecting too much from yourself while giving minimal effort
Hopefully, this has helped you understand what toxic Parenting is and will put you on the road to breaking the cycle of toxic Parenting. Parenting is challenging, and with my own children, some days it is very hard, but we make sure that we do not put our children in a toxic environment. The only way to achieve this is by looking at what toxic Parenting is and do things differently.
There is no such thing as the perfect parent, but our jobs as parents s to make sure that our child or children feel safe, and whether it is you as a parent or even another family member that is being toxic, it needs to be addressed quickly.
Toxic Parenting Is Real…
I went to school with a boy who had a narcissistic mother, and on the outside in public, she looked like a good parent, but she was not very nice and was always putting this young boy down. He would arrive at school in a stress and feeling very run down. The level of toxicity that his mom was giving out was incredible, and he was genuinely scared of what his mother would do next. He later on in life went down the route of drug abuse and was found dead at his home.
If you have found this interesting and informative, please share it with your friends and family. Hopefully, it will help break the cycle of toxic Parenting, and maybe you sharing will help some other person, whether it be a child or a parent.
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